The Myth of "Getting Over" Abuse
Abuse leaves its mark. It's not a simple matter of brushing yourself off and moving on. The scars, both physical and emotional, can run deep, and the healing process can be long and arduous.
There's a dangerous and pervasive myth that suggests if you've "gotten over" abuse, it's no longer affecting you. This couldn't be further from the truth. Abuse can have lasting impacts on a person's mental and physical health, relationships, and overall well-being.
Why "Getting Over" Isn't Enough
Simply "getting over" abuse means pushing it down, burying it deep inside. This may provide temporary relief, but it doesn't address the underlying trauma. The pain and hurt will continue to fester, impacting your life in various ways.
Healing Takes Time and Work
Healing from abuse is a journey, not a destination. It takes time, effort, and support. There's no magic formula or one-size-fits-all approach. What works for one person may not work for another.
Here are some steps that can help on the road to healing:
Seek professional help: A therapist can provide you with the tools and support you need to process your trauma and develop healthy coping mechanisms.
Join a support group: Connecting with others who have experienced similar experiences can be validating and empowering.
Practice self-care: Make time for activities that nourish your mind, body, and soul. This might include exercise, journaling, spending time in nature, or connecting with loved ones.
Be patient with yourself: Healing is a marathon, not a sprint. There will be good days and bad days. Be gentle with yourself and celebrate your progress, no matter how small.
Educate yourself about abuse: The more you know about abuse, the better equipped you will be to understand your own experience and develop healthy coping mechanisms.
Set boundaries: It's important to set boundaries with the people who abused you and anyone else who is triggering or unhealthy for you.
Forgive yourself: It's important to remember that you were not responsible for the abuse. Forgive yourself for any choices you made in an attempt to survive.
Focus on the present: While it's important to acknowledge your past, it's also important to focus on the present and build a happy and healthy future for yourself.
Remember, you are not alone. Abuse is a common experience, but it doesn't have to define you. With time, support, and effort, you can heal and rebuild your life. You deserve to live a happy and healthy life. Take the first step today.
If you or someone you know is struggling with ongoing effects of abuse, call/text (325)644-8757 to see how Life’s Healing Journey, PLLC can help.
